Emancipation With a History of Parental Neglect

[GamerzGirl]

Okay, since my questions aren't exactly being asked with the way that I state them. I will restate.

What CAN I do in this situation? -.-

[GamerzGirl]

The best thing you can do for yourself is wait until you are 18.

The law is NOT going to force your mother to allow you to move out of state. It is NOT going to force her to relinquish guardianship. The fact that she will not allow you to have a job or move away from home before you are 18 is not sufficient for the law to step in.

Good for you for wanting more education but you have not described anything that is going to justify the law stepping in and telling your mother what she is required to allow you to do.

What about evidence behind Physical Abuse? I have my step dad, and my best friends parents that were there when it has happened. I have pictures.

I was in Middle School and Elementary when it was happening, so I didn't think I could do anything. Does it have ANY affect now?

[seniorjudge]

No one is being mean to you.

The fact is that you will not be emancipated.

[cyjeff]

Okay first. What is with all of the negative assumptions?

There was nothing negative in my post.

Just because it wasn't the answer you were looking for doesn't make it mean. You were the one that interjected the "I really want the best for my life" drama into the equation.

Second, He is NOT my boyfriend. He's pretty much Gay. For crying out loud.

Doesn't change my answer a bit.

Third, I NEVER ask my mom for ANYTHING. She never buys anything that relates to us anyways.

I know my rights as a minor, and I know hers as an adult / mother.

Apparently not.

I am trying to do this for my education. There is NO other reason. I'm very capable. I want to do great in life, and I don't feel like I would be able to get that here. For that, I want to better myself, and move out.

You aren't understanding one simple fact. Judges don't grant children the rights of adults on the basis of "gonna do's" or "might have's". They grant children the rights of adults on the basis of need.

As in, if you can't sign for an apartment and/or utilities, you will die. As in, if you can't sign for school, you won't go.

You are living under her roof. You are not already living independantly. You are not already supporting yourself.

Unless you are supporting YOURSELF, you don't have a tissue's chance in a blast furnace of emancipation.

I'm not asking for you to "stereotype" me as an average teenager, nor am I trying to pick a fight.

Really, I read that differently. And believe me, I have responded to hundreds of these "I really want to be emancipated because" posts over the years.

Trust me... you are an average teenager. Don't think I know you?

Okay, you see yourself as slightly smarter, slightly more mature and slightly more capable of making your own decisions than the average teen. You believe that all it will take you to be happy is to stop answering to your parents rules and regulations. You also believe that having someone else support you makes you independant.

And you would be wrong.

I came here for advice, and that is what I would expect myself to get. That is why I am asking.

And you got it. Then you started playing the "what if" game because you didn't like the answers.

[cyjeff]

Okay, since my questions aren't exactly being asked with the way that I state them. I will restate.

What CAN I do in this situation? -.-

If your mother won't sign the guardianship papers, you stay where you are until you are 18.

[cyjeff]

What about evidence behind Physical Abuse? I have my step dad, and my best friends parents that were there when it has happened. I have pictures.

I was in Middle School and Elementary when it was happening, so I didn't think I could do anything. Does it have ANY affect now?

Not really.

If it was really so terrible and everyone saw it, why did no one call the police then? This is the question a judge will ask.... and will also ask about the last time you were struck.

[GamerzGirl]

Okay, Sorry. Yes, I do want answers that are more in the line of what I would want for my life. So would anyone else.

But I'm not looking for things that "can't" happen. I want you to tell me what "could" happen.

Blah, okay. Nevermind.

I'll just deal with the emotional abuse, and with my brother.

Thanks though.

[seniorjudge]

Okay, Sorry. Yes, I do want answers that are more in the line of what I would want for my life. So would anyone else.

But I'm not looking for things that "can't" happen. I want you to tell me what "could" happen.

Blah, okay. Nevermind.

I'll just deal with the emotional abuse, and with my brother.

Thanks though.

Thus is life.

[GamerzGirl]

Also. I don't want to leave because of rules. Honestly, I don't have rules.

She doesn't care about any of our education, medical, transportation. Anything.

She doesn't have rules ever since court started. It's just been, "do whatever you want."

Most of the time she is like, "Go! Leave, go move out."

Then, I get ready to do so, and she pulls the "i'm your mother card" on me.

I'm tired of the indecisiveness. I'm tired of the neglect. I want to be independent but it is hard obtaining that because of her.

[cyjeff]

Then explain the phrase "she won't let me move because she is controlling me".