My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Arkansas

I have been divorced for 3 years now. My visitation with my daughters is not your regular standard visitation; it is supposed to be by mutual agreement; only my ex-wife tells me when I can have my kids and I have to take that or she does not allow me to see them at all. I have gone 2 months in a row before without seeing them. She has been known to let them go to other people's homes when it is supposed to be my weekend visitation and not tell me that she has changed my visitation for me to then have to call around just to find out where my girls are and just so I can talk to them.

My wife now and my ex-wife do not get along at all. My wife tells me that it seems to her that my ex-wife is trying to "blackmail" me into only seeing my girls when she wants or on her condition and if I don't then I don't see my girls. My wife says that she would consider this to be a form of blackmail and that if "mutual agreement" means just that "a mutual agreement" then my ex-wife and I both would have to "agree" to all of the terms.

My wife has told me that because of all of the situations that go on all of the time that "if" she watches my girls it will have to be on "her conditions" and not just because my ex-wife tells me that I can have them such and such day or I don't get them at all. I can see her point, but I want to see my girls to. And yes, I am tired of being told when I can and can't see them. I have even called them on the phone and been REFUSED the chance to get to talk to them.

I have an appointment with a lawyer next month, but until then- What should I do about this?