Wow! I have been reading through this website and all of the apparent fraud regarding international relationships is scary. Is there a such thing as a relationship without fraud anymore! I envy my parents being married for over 40 years and wonder if it is just not possible anymore. I have already thrown away quite a few years and tens of thousands on failed relationships with multiple American women. One child of mine was given up for adoption at birth when I was 19 and with another child at 27 (who is now 9) I am now in constant struggle with her irresponsible mother. Yes, I was too interested in other things besides "is she a good woman" and paid for it dearly. I spent over $10K in the last year for a nearly meaningless and barely accountable parenting plan. I decided to search and find a more traditional and family-oriented women. Now, I am afraid maybe it is too quick to be true. Never been married, but want to do it only once and ready to put forth my best effort to make it work. Anyone have any statistics on the success/failure rate of international marriages (I am particularily interested in American man Russian woman?)

I am 36, and recently met a nice young lady just shy of 26 who is here on visitor visa from Russia since March. I am in KS, she in MI, living with her mom and step-father (who is American.) They married only one year ago, but he says these ladies are good women and I should marry their daughter before the visa expires in October because she wants to be with me. After two short extended weekend visits, we are discussing and moving forward with marriage already. I asked her to move to KC with me, and she accepted, but shortly after her mom stepped in and said no living together until after marriage. She seemed quite upset about not being with me, but wanted to please her family too. My family originally thought we would be moving in too soon, but accepted it. Now, knowing that we must be married, my family is totally against it and thinks I should live with someone for a long time before marriage, which simply is not possible here. I want to marry her, but wow after reading this website I am really scared of coming out to be the fool once again. Anybody have some words of encouragement? Maybe some honest comments from a unbiased Russian lady would be helpful. I have my plan of action but a little hesitant to take such a strong stand and looking like a fool!