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    Default How to Get Your Ex- to Use Gun Locks for the Children's Safety

    My ex has our son for the day. I was out shopping, and ran across a table set up for Project ChildSafe--they were handing out free child-proof gun locks. I thought, oh great, i'll get some and give them to my ex [he is a hunter and owns many guns].

    I called to ask how many guns he has. "None of your business", he says. Wha.... ??? I explained to him that I was trying to get FREE gun locks. He basically told me that if the guns were not in MY home, it was none of my business how they were stored....

    I explained that if our son wants to have playdates at other houses, it will definitely be a question that I ask to parents. If his son is spending time there, I feel like it IS my business.

    How do I handle this? I don't want my son spending time in a place with unsecured guns lurking around. It is not my intention to come between my ex and his son, but it IS my business whether he is in danger spending time in that house.....right?

    And furthermore, HOW ON EARTH do my ex and I co-parent when we can't even have a discussion like this without it turning into an argument?

    HELP!

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    Default Re: How should I handle this?

    Quote Quoting Katie
    How do I handle this? I don't want my son spending time in a place with unsecured guns lurking around. It is not my intention to come between my ex and his son, but it IS my business whether he is in danger spending time in that house.....right?
    A court, in granting your ex- parenting time, has assessed him capable of providing an appropriate environment for the child. Parents often want more details on what an ex- is doing, or how an ex- is living, than the ex- is willing to provide. There's not necessarily a remedy when that happens.

    Quote Quoting Katie
    And furthermore, HOW ON EARTH do my ex and I co-parent when we can't even have a discussion like this without it turning into an argument?
    If this discussion turned into an argument, it is because it isn't occurring in a vacuum, but is weighed down by the baggage of your past relationship, past conflicts, and divorce. You're right that you (that is, you and he) need to find a way to communicate better. If you can't, you may wish to consider some form of parenting time facilitator to assist with communication and coordination issues.

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