My question involves divorce in the State of: nebraska
i am posting numerous questions and also trying to be as open and plain as possible, as i hope my problem and subsequent updates may be of use to someone else, as i have been going nuts just trying to get one simple point in the right direction.
okay, so here is a rough breakdown of the circumstances:
i was married in 2000 in nevada, through the course of only a couple years, he was in and out of prison, each time he got arrested, i was constantly quizzed on how and where we were married. was told in 2004 by Kansas investigators that i wasnt legally married. i fought them and had to show my marriage license to them. i never heard another word about it. over the next year, things began to happen to the relationship. i found out:
that the name he married me with, was not a legally changed name.
the ID he used may have had a false social security number on it. (i found out that he tends to reverse a couple digits in the number)
when i told the clerk for the state of nevada about this, they said it sounds as though i am not legally married.
at one point when i tried to apply for an EIN number with the FEDS for a home business, they refused my application and wanted proof of my ID, this leads me to believe that my marriage may not be legally recognized by even the government.
how does someone find out if legally their marriage is actually observed without breathing down the neck of officials? i just want to know if i actually need to go through all this hassle or if by some twist of luck, im looking at only having to do a simple name change to match my passport and off i go?
now i should point out that the police DO refer to him under his assumed name, even though it is not legally changed. and he is referred under his born name as it being an alias. (does this mean that he has assumed the other identity? or are the legal departments just dense on the whole issue?)
now i am planning on getting married this year and its an international marriage. so in respect of my constant worries about things going amist, i decided to check on line. apparently in the state of nevada, even if its fraudulant, we are still married (as per a couple websites i ran across, even though as you read before, the clerk says i couldnt possibly be married because its false info).
so now i am faced with obtaining a divorce in nebraska, as this is the only place i have residency with. i am applying under a missing spouse petition, i am completely in the dark how this works, i am filing by myself.
now i know i need to get permission for the alternative publication notice: does this happen when i go to pay for the divorce?
does the 3 weeks for the publication coincide with the 30 date wait period while getting on the docket or is it additional to that time?
i know you need to prove that you have tried to find the missing spouse, but as i do not know his SSN and the name he "uses" is a rather popular name in the search engine, i am at a lost as to how to prove that i cant find him. will the courts accept that i have tried and just allow me to post the publication?
also i found out that in nebraska there is a 6 month wait from divorce before remarriage for ANYWHERE in the world! this has completely devistated my plans. i thought i would be able to just get divorced here and then travel to LA, to the consulate, get married and go on my way.
now with all this going on, i am searching for the quickest possible way to get out of this whole mess without throwing tons of money at it. i have searched and researched alternative and less then morally abiding sites, ex: dominican, mexico and other divorce locations. DO NOT use any of those type of things as they are NOT legally upholding with the USA. i have checked.
also i have even considered just getting married in spain (they wont know the difference) and giving my ex the middle finger of "screw you the way you screwed me" but again my morals keep me from doing this as i try to be as law abiding as possible and i want this next marriage to be legally binding and without cause for dismissal of my visa application (as i am moving to europe to be with the man i am marrying)
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me! i am going insane! i can NOT afford a lawyer, i can NOT afford a lot of waisted time chasing my tail and i just want this OVER with!
thank you for any help i get and i hope anyone reading this with similiar circumstances will get some sort of help from it and be able to skip all the middle molarky crap that i am going through.

