Don't listen to your soon to be ex. Listen to the attorney that you are paying good hard earned money to represent you.

You most certainly can do it, but you have 3 years to do it, if I recall correctly. In addition to alienation of affection the divorce attorney generally tries to get criminal conversation tied into it. This isn't talking on the phone conversation, but sexual intercourse between the two parties. Even though it says criminal, it is not a criminal law case and a police report is not required. Proof of the intercourse can be hard to obtain, particularly if the two adulterers are protecting each other.

A friend of mine was either named or threatened to be named (not sure which) in an AoA case in NC and she had only talked to the guy a few times when he worked on her plumbing and didn't know he was married until the wife called. She could be named even though they did not have sexual intercourse. Several of the women that did have intercourse with this plumber were named.

NC is tough on drunk drivers and tough on those who cheat on their spouses.