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  1. #1
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    Unhappy Can I Be Emancipated?

    My question involves emancipation laws for the State of: NEW HAMPSHIRE


    My name is [NAME DELETED] I am 16 years old I have a job, a license, and a reliable car. I want to get emancipated but I am not sure that I can.

    You see about three years ago my stepfather was sexually abusing me, this went on from when I was 13 until I was 15. Over a year ago I told my best friend [NAME DELETED] that this was happening, she wanted me to talk to her mom, who I was also very close with. I told her and we cried for a long time together before she told me I needed to tell my mom what was happening, tonight. That night when my mom got home I told her about what had happened to me, she told me that she would talk to him, she was talking to him when they called me out to talk with them. He admitted to what he had done but that was all that happened. I also told my sister to see if he had done anything to her, she said she hadn't, she left to live with my dad because he mentally abused her. Two nights later she called and said I needed to tell my dad or she would, I was so afraid to tell him that my mom told him, apparently he didnt do anything either. Then eight weeks later I was sitting at the table playing cards with my friend when he came behind me and stuck a pen cap down the back of my pants. This upset me so I went into my room and cried with my friend for three hours. The next day I went to my friend [NAME DELETED] and told her family what had happened. They were so fed up with my mom not doing anything that they called DCYF and we went down there for a short interview. Her dad told my mom where I was and what was going on and she was furious! DCYF agreed that I could stay with the [NAME DELETED] family until my interview which was in a few days.
    When the interview came my father was there and when I was done he wanted to get emergency custody over me. The small court happened that day and they told me to stay where I was, with the [NAME DELETED]'s, until the official hearing. I was with the [NAME DELETED]'s for a week before they put me back with my mom, luckily my step dad was not to be at the house. DCYF order a no contact order, this was for my mom as well but she still had her connections with him. Over the next year we went through DCYF, but I was never allowed to talk with them alone and my mom always reviewed what I would tell them. I had a gaurdian atlightem and everything but my story was never fully heard. Febuary this year the case ended, and within two months he was back, it was going to be a one night thing but turned into a permanent thing. Recently I tried to kill myself because of his return and the fact that he hadn't changed, his same behaivors were coming back. I was admited to the hospital of NH, they all agreed my mom was not a good place for me, nor was my dad's, he used to abuse us when we were young and had a nasty temper. They agreed the [NAME DELETED]'s was the best place but were not able to get me there.
    My plan is that I would get emancipated and move in with them for free, they have already agreed to take me and tried to adopt me before but my mom found out before she was able to and my friend's mom didnt want to put more stress on me. PLEASE, I beg that you help me or help me to find a solution.

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    Default Re: Can I Be Emancipated?

    A better solution would be a change of guardianship.

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    Default Re: Can I Be Emancipated?

    To underline the above....

    You really don't have a very good chance at emancipation. Suicide attempts and hospitalizations don't bode well for your chances.

    Beg your father to change your guardianship to live with him. You need to get away from your stepfather.

    Oh, and the next time you are asked for the whole story by a court of law, give them the whole story.

    You cannot give them only a piece of the story and then be angry that they didn't guess the other 90%. They can only work with what you give them to work.

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    Default Re: Can I Be Emancipated?

    The only problem with living with my father is that he dosen't have the room or need for me. I dont have that good of a relationship with him and my sister moved away from him for mental abuse. Is there anyway to go with the [NAME DELETED] family instead?

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    Default Re: Can I Be Emancipated?

    Quote Quoting hunnabunn2000
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    The only problem with living with my father is that he dosen't have the room or need for me. I dont have that good of a relationship with him and my sister moved away from him for mental abuse. Is there anyway to go with the [NAME DELETED] family instead?
    Probably not.

    And I am pretty sure that they would be very uncomfortable with you putting their daughter's full name on an internet board.

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    Default Re: Can I Be Emancipated?

    Since your friend's family already has a history with DCF of assisting you, they might consider a petition to become your legal guardians. With adoption, your mother would have to "put you up" - with guardianship, the process is different and can happen if the court thinks it's in your best interest (mom doesn't have to "allow" it). Change of guardianship will likely require that your biological father consent to it, so if he's ok with it, have your friend's family contact the probate court in their county to find out the steps to take to ask the court to be your legal guardians (not adoptive parents).

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