My wife surprised me with a divorce summons, and we NEVER discussed ending the relationship, and I had NO idea of her intent. Now she won't talk to me AT ALL (She has a restraining order based on her FEELING that I MIGHT get upset her and be violent...despite the fact that I have NEVER been violent in any way before) Certainaly she can end the relationship if she want to, but is it a divorce if her only reason is she's not as happy as she thinks she COULD be ?

I thought divorce was a specific remedy brought on by infidelity or irreconsilable differences or some specific violation in the marraige contract. If clearly I'm not insane, and we have never attempted any reconciliation...and she refuses to go to counseling NOW ..can she actually "divorce" me and gain the benifits of entitlement to the 505 of our assets it provides?

If she just decides she wants to take our two kids, move on, and have me continue to pay for them all to live apart from me without any more reason than she THINKS sh e MIGHT be happier apart?