I lived in the U.S. for 3 years illegally after a J1 student work visa.
I returned home with my girlfriend (U.S. citizen) and we later got engaged.
3 and half yrs later she returned to the U.S. to be with her ill mom. I stayed for fear of getting refused.
I got told and convinced that I had nothing to worry about by someone who I thought was a good source.
Well I tried to visit her for 2 weeks but got refused and they said I need to apply at the U.S. Embassy every time I want to get into the U.S. now. I think it was section 214(b)
Is it possible they will ban me? We were planning on marrying in my country and then we'd apply for a spouse visa. What do you think is our best option? Is there a risk I will get banned for 5-10 years?

