My question involves a child custody case from the State of: CT

My ex has been verbally abusive in the past and continues to be, despite there being a court order of not speaking that way in front of our child. Our child is only 2 years old and gets very upset- criies and states "Daddy Mad" and then doesn't want to go with him, crying and saying "no mommy no" "go in mommy's car". We already meet in a public parking lot, but this doesn't seem to help. What else can I do in order to be able to document?

Today he called the police regarding a visitation issue about when he was to return her to me (I wouldn't give in based on the advice of my lawyer and therapist because of the way he verbally abuses me and threatens me (he's a cop and thinks all cops will side with him etc...) and his failure to give notice about visits. The police came and sided with me and there was a witness today as to his verbal abuse-- yelling swearing, slamming doors. So this one time is documented with the police. But, I know that because he didn't get his way now, things will be even worse. How do I protect myself and most of all, my daughter from being a witness to his behavior? Walking away is not always an option, because if I don't hand her over to him, then he will claim I am trying to withhold her from him. If its the end and I am getting her back, I walk away, put her in my car and we leave. But when I am dropping her off, it isn't so easy- the baby is going to hear it.

The police suggest bringing someone with me. If I bring someone with with me, is that going to be a "biased" person?

Thank you for any help you can give....