My question involves child support in the State of: Michigan
Hi, quick rundown on my situation. My husband and I have 2 children. Before I got pregnant with my ds in 2006 my husband had a very stupid one night stand which resulted in a pregnancy. When the other woman told my husband she was pregnant he did not believe that the child was his. He told the other woman this and she told him she was sure it was. He asked her to consider having an abortion or giving the baby up for adoption if it really was his because he was not interested in having a baby with her, that this was the result of a very hurtful mistake. She said she was keeping the baby and he didn't have to be a part of it. She had the baby and then came after my husband for paternity testing and, once it was proven that the child was his, child support. My husband is not involved in the childs life but has been paying the support since it was ordered as well as health insurance.
My issues are ( well, there are MANY but I'll stick to the FOC):
*My two children-from our MARRIAGE- recieve LESS money in the formula than the child of the ONS. I am a stay at home mom so they can't be considering any of my income-which is obviously $0- to determine the support. How is it that this child from a one night stand, where no relationship between the 2 parents was involved is entitled to more per month than my two children of marriage COMBINED??? And if I were to divorce him, my support order would be LOWER than the other womans because its on a first come first served basis.
*Our income tax returns were just garnished because my husband is being held responsible for the other womans medical bills incurred during the pregnancy and delivery. She was on Medicaid because she had no insurance when she became pregnant. In the state of MI, if not married and the mother goes on medicaid the father is held responsible for 50% of the medical bills. Where does this woman's responsibilty come in. She chose to have the baby, to keep the baby, knowing that my husband was not going to be involved. She knew she had no health insurance. Why is she not held responsible for some of the cost if he is? I had my ds in Aug 2007 and am still working on paying off almost $2000 in medical bills from my delivery and I had health insurance!
*The very worst part is if I were to have gone out and had the one night stand and ended up pregnant by a man other than my husband I could not go after the bio dad for support because I am married and my husband would have been presumed to be the father. Why the double standard? Why can this woman come after my husband, when she KNEW he was married, that he had a child, and that he did not want to have a child with her?
I feel like the system is broken and allows for the enterprising woman to pick a guy, get pregnant and go after said man for support with no concern for the situation. I understand that a child is involved and in this case, it is very sad, but this other woman CHOSE to bring her child into the world knowing it would be fatherless. My husband is the sperm donor here, not a father, and I feel like my family is getting shafted because this woman wanted to reap the benefits of having a baby.
Do I have any options? Or am I just stuck with dealing with the injustice of the system?![]()

