If it ever happens to you, don't be silly. It's a waste of time.
If it ever happens to you, don't be silly. It's a waste of time.
No, it is NOT silly!! Hurt and degradation can last many years.
There does come a point where one has to move on, but that does not mean the hurt will be wiped totally away. I have past events in my life which still haunt me today concerning the employment field.
To let it consume your thoughts and emotions is not silly, you just can't let some trashball ruin your future life.
Poeple handle life's events different, some handle grief and death, for example, much better than others.
There are better emotional adjectives to describe your feelings over it, silly is not one of them.
Best wishes,
BOR
Many times we choose to allow past events to continue to haunt us by continuing to focus on them and viewing them as unfair or a catastrophy. But, none of that changes what has happened.
The poster made a choice, namely to be with his brother. That was more important to him than his job. He thought that his employer would see and accept the value of his decision; or maybe didn't think about it. Nonetheless, his employer didn't agree. To the employer, having the poster do what he was hired, needed and paid to do was more important than family obligations. Unfortunately, that attitude is a reality in the US. We are not as family friendly as other countries. But that's the way it is.
I think of silly as being foolish and lacking common sense. And, I think it is foolish and doesn't show a lot of sense, to waste time and energy anguishing over a decision made a year ago that cannot be changed and continuing to be angry because the employer doesn't share the same values.
The poster did what he thought he had to do. When we make decisions, we have to be prepared to accept the consequences. The poster needs to accept that losing his job was one of those consequences.
The poster needs to put this behind him and move on. His residual anger and negativity over the experience may be apparent to propsective employers. New employers tend not to want employees who are caught up in the past.
For what it is worth, I think you made the correct choice. Family always wins.
If the boss didn't understand that, you didn't want to work there anyway.
However, that doesn't make the firing illegal.
You also didn't mention whether you had any time remaining, how many sick/personal days you had already taken or any other facts.
Sometimes, you just have to live with what happens to you. As I tell my children, don't take your own life too seriously.