I want to let all the posters on this site kknow that they are doing a fabulous job. By browsing through alot of the post I realize some of you are employed in a field that has you dealing with these things all the time. For you all to give some personal time to relay information to others in what may be their time of need is a tremendously wonderful act of kindness.
For all the people who are here asking for guidence, you are also brave in laying your storie out there for others to judge and advise you on. SOME of the answers my come across as cold or sarcastic but remember these people do this, not only here but as a job and they to are entitled to bad day. With that said, I have some questions that I need answers to.
BACKGROUND
2003 charged with multiple counts of Dom AB and kiddnapping
2004 supierior court 12 person jury Not Guilty 3 counts of AB not guilty 3 counts of kiddnapping guilty 1 count simple assault.
sentenced 2.5 years probation attend dv counciling submit DNA
fast forward today
I am on pretrial probation for 2 counts of AB which I am hoping will be reduced once all the facts are in. I should be charged with 1 count dissordley conduct. I'm not here to ask about that.
Q why when in determining certian things are the courts allowed to read from my record 4 counts of ab but not state only guilty of 1 count of simple assault. BTW if you need details on any of this please feel free to ask.
Q when police take a statement from """ the victim""" do they take into acount that persons demenor or state of mental awarness? My accuser who absolutly refused to give any statement until coerced/threatened by police. was extreamly intoxicated and was actually drinking infront of the officer.
Q """" General Question""" does anybody think that the rules for DV should be altered in such a way that both parties involved should automaticly be arrested so as to deter faulse statements?
Q """ General Question""" Should the State/DA take into consideration more actively a request to drop charges if the Victim/Accuser is willing to. And has done and made all LEGAL attempts to do so? """(before you all go off on this one I don't mean by lying and changing their staments as to obstruct the case, but with hiring a lawyer themselves and pleading to the courts that this should be dropped for XYZ resons)"""
Q If during an AB both parties admit to physicly contacting each other. Why isit the male that gets arrested? I ask this from my 2003 case and know first hand that my accuser stated in her own hand written report that she not only started the hitting that I was driving at highway speeds when she did it.
I got the simple asault on that because I admitted I held her with force against the door till I could stop the car.
I have more but will stop with these for now

