I am involved in a divorce nightmare. I finally left my wife after 10 years of emotional abuse. The divorce has now been going on for nearly 3 years and I have lost every court battle thus far. I pay 75 percent of my take home pay in alimony and child support. I have been forced into banruptcy. It is very difficult to get a court date because my wife and her lawyer never agree to the date. I am trying to take the high road but the judge allowed my wife and her attorney's every request. We were recently able to get to court where the judge would not grant my divorce because my wife's attorney objected. I have offered my wife all the marital assets (nearly 1/2 million dollars) in exchange for paying no spousal support on 4 separate occasions with absolutely no response from her or her attorney. As part of the settlement offer I agreed to take all the marital debt. I am at my wits end. We have been to court 3 times in 3 years. Each time the judge has granted all of her wishes. I don't understand this. I am more than happy to pay my child support and take care of my children I make a decent salary but now I can no longer afford to live and I was the victim in this marriage. I was forced to move into someone's basement. My wife told me that she will do everything she can to ruin me financially and she has a judge to help her. We live in a rural area of Virginia. Are there any options for me? I thought that my attorney was the problem so I hired a new one, but that didn't help at all.

