My question involves divorce in the State of: Georgia

I have been served with a Complaint for Divorce by my wife of 10 years. In the complaint her grounds are O.C.G.A 19-5-3(13) the Georgia's "broken-no hope" clause, AND, O.C.G.A 19-5-3(10) Georgia's "cruel treatment" clause, with no reference to any specific instance or description of said cruel treatment in this initial Complaint.

Her relief seeks full legal and physical custody of the children, temp&full maintenence for herself, the equitible division of marital assetts and liabilities, and attorney fees. There is no type of restraining order or behavior by me to merit such stated or requested. Here I am only concerned with the legal aspects of my counterclaim. Put on your thinking caps. Unless you know a good attorney that works for free, I am looking forward to a PER SE attempt at representation. My career involves negotiating binding business contracts for certain types of businesses, I have (unfortunately) had many occasions since last June to read the Georgia section of Family law legal code from head to tail, and I did stay at the Holiday Inn last night... .. .. .. .. ..

I have impartial direct and truthful testimony that will show or state the following:

1. The children have left the home looking for her, barefoot in pajammas during a winter night in our rural area of Georgia and the only way she knew they were gone was when the call waiting beeped on the phone - she had locked herself in the laundry room so she could "hear" to talk on the phone.

a. Psychoactive drugs not prescribed but requested by her to treat our son for... nothing, no doctor ever diagnosed a physiological condition or recommended prescribed medication. He was on meds "at the request of the Mother" to even out his temperment.

b. Appointments for no less than 3 redundant anal examinations of his colon to find the cause of "internal itching" she insisted he was sufferring from. It was when I questioned the wisdom of a doctor who refers our Son twice to other doctors for the same humiliating procedure that I learned none of the physicians were aware of the previous exam(s), all had been ordered by my wife exclusive of eachother. Doc #3 questioned her and my son before starting the exam to see what other factors may be contributing to the irritated bowl. And based on the answers (I really want see this affadaivat) did not see the need to perform the procedure.

c. While taking morning classes for a medical transcription certificate she completed (one year course at commmunity college - never went to a single job interview) she had gotten into a heated arguement with the home daycare she used concerning the bill from a week where our son had not attended the full 5 days. After hearing my wife bragg how she smarted off to shut the old lady up, I looked her straight in the eye and said "get him out of there tomorrow. We'll find somewhere else, even if it costs more." I had to explain to her that daycares aren't schools. The people at alot of these places have no problem being mean, unfair, or downright neglectful to children of parents who don't pay on time, are rude, or whatever. The next day I found two new ones with openings but they were "too far out of the way" and she never visit or called any other daycares. Two weeks to the day she had insulted the owner, we got a call from the daycare, our 3 year old Son had been smashed in the face by the boot heal of an 8 year old who was just swinging. His jaw was busted. He lost one of his front two big teeth from the "accident."

d. She worked about 4 months in 2005 for the Temp company owned by the US Post office. I had met an associate who was able to fasttrack an application to Post Offices that were below a certain percentage in manpower and had applicants living within a certain radius of the particular branch. She got hired with no experience needed and no special schooling or techinical know how making 11.00 an hour plus overtime, plus miles in a mail truck we found. She was bringing home checks for $1100 or so every two weeks that I told her to do with as she needed, it was hers, she earned it, I was proud of her, etc... and she completed the probationary period with not a single negative writeup, sick day, tardy, she aced it. Per policy, before going full time carrier, she is layed off for one week so as to then come back the next Monday as her first day with the USPost Office as a Rural Route Carrier, pay grade $17.32 an hour (plus miles, overtime, all the calendar days off, pension, benefits, etc...) Sunday comes around and she tells me that afternoon she's not going in on Monday. Is she sick, hurt, or just nervous? No, no, she just states one single time to me "I miss the kids and I really don't want to have to work on a Saturday." No phone call to or letter to the post office. No bye-bye to any of the friends she had made there over those last few months. Just didn't show up. I lost about $800 when I finally sold the stupid mail truck a few months later.

e. She has lied underoath and given false statements in pursuit of an emergency protective order she took out on me last summer. She decided at the last minute (shocker) she wasn't going to attend a highend client's birthday party we had been invited to. I was upset because I just wanted to go to a birthday party with my wife and have some actual fun with her for the first time in months. But she was mad that I didn't seem exceited enough about going and that I didn't in the previous week make her feel like I "wanted her to go," I "didn't ask if she needed a new dress," So at the last minute, she exercises her control mechanism of it being my fault that she isn't going (everything is my fault because I should have enabled her... school, postoffice, sacrifices and bit lips, and never once making her feel like less of a person for putting me through it all, ya know, I'm running late, it sure would be nice is she thougt about me for once." I called "another woman" a coworker who I was asking if any other Reps had been invited to the client's birthday party (private club in Buckhead, Atlanta with an invite almost 6 weeks out, if I didn't show up and that meant no one from our company showed up, it would have been a major snub in the clients mind)

As I open the door after making the call, wife's wedding band is flying through the air and narrowly misses my let temple. She is shouting profanity and telling me I am going to lose everything. I crack. After 9 years (this is last June) of taking week after week of inults because I love my son, or because I tried to help her get a good job or because I never ever cursed her out or raised a hand against her even when having loads of verbal garbage dumped on me, I mean, there are literally dozens of incidences similar to those above that I could write 3 more hours about ($1000 tennis bracelet that she made me take back because I really didn't mean it - or I wouldn't have left for 20 minutes to get the car washed a couple days later. Yea, she's mad again, because I tried to help!?! I cannot win and these incidences go on and on for the last 10 years)

I am so angry at this point, probably the most angry I have ever been. I am 6 foot and weigh 220 or so, but I'm a lover not a hater and she has never feared seeing my body near hers, but this time I was shouting, I was yelling, I was angry, I had my fist closed and I came toward her. Right before my knuckles reach her skin, I come to a complete stop. My fists open and my fingers flex out like when dashing water off of just washed hands and at that moment she "was pushed" and the world as I know begins to change. I am so angry, so frustrated. In 9 years we have gone from a young couple with a new baby living on my 12 dollar an hour job to her whining about not getting enough when all I have given her is EVERYTHING without asking for nothing back, ever. My love to her was free, but her love came with the highest price, my sanity. I lost it. I shouted as loud as I could the one thing I wanted to see happen to her, I shouted out that SOMEHOW, SOMEWAY, SOMEBODY IS GOING TO BE ABLE TO HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE FOR ALL THE HELL YOU HAVE DISHED OUT. I DON'T KNOW WHO, AND I DON'T KNOW HOW, BUT I DO KNOW THAT IT IS COMING FOR YOU, FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A LONG TIME, YOU ARE GOING TO BE HELD ACCOUNTABLE. She then swung a right hook fist at me, almost hitting me where the ring barely missed. Thats two counts of assault (attempts qualify) she has committed on me in less than 10 minutes, a ring shot like a bullet and a fist swung like a club. I never tried to block the fist or use any means of restraining her from swing again. I tilted back to avoid the fist and just looked at her. All it took for her to want to hurt me as much as she could was being told she would be held accountable. It got quiet and I realized our daughter had just watched Mommy try to punch Daddy. Our daugher is my Wife's savig grace as she is able to bring out the best in my Wife. I said to my wife, you realize that you just committed assault right here in front of our daughter? She told me to leave that if I stayed there, it would be a lot worse when I woke and saw what she would do to me in my sleep. I just looked away, grabbed some items and left. I didnt come back for four days. The day before returning (three days after the above fight) she takes our vacation money and goes to see a lawyer. After she pays him, she is suddenly in fear of her life and he calls a Victim Advocate to help her file an Ex Parte Emergency Domestic Violence Protective Order. In the space and time around one of these orders, the Constitution is warped and twisted, basic rights implode inward and disappear, what is left is a black hole of murky legal space where I'm not under arrest and I have not been charged with any crime, but I am being treated by the state as if I have done both? Now even in a genuine inditement, there is usually atleast some kind of evidence to believe a wrong has been committed, but again, the Constitution is stretch, pulled, ripped... and with no burden of proof, no evidence, no marks, hospital photos, actually to the contrary the person who was assaulted is now told to leave his own home. The order was actually issued two days before, on Wednesday, and my wife made no calls for police, help, family, nothing, when I returned from leaving voluntarily after the fight. I wasn't angry at the judge or the sherriff. I was actually kind of thankful to the Sherriff who shook my hand as I vacated the domicile. While gathering some things I talked to the Sherriff and he relayed how he too had had one of these served on him, and that he was throwing and hollering, cursing, and how was I staying so calm. I told him that if they thougt there might be some chance my kids could be in danger and even if it was me and even if they were wrong, my kids were worth the benefit of the doubt. I talked about the truth not having to holler, curse, or scream and that it will come out when the time was right. It was dawning on me that I was calm too because I knew now that her accountability was finally at hand and the person who was going to make her accountable was herself. What finally made me believe higher forces are at work is when I learned her "victim advocate" with the order in a coincidence of literally cosmic proportions, was a female coworker that sat at the desk directly beside me, no cubicle walls. She knows my character as well as any witness I could ever hope to call for a statement. She was "shocked" to learn who the receipent of the order was as she knows my personality and demeaner.

Finally, I have phone records and witness testimony that clearly and plainly shows my wife in contempt, repeatedly violating the order (calling me the first night I was out TO COME OVER TO WHERE I WAS -convinced I had gone to "another woman") Even after all that, I didn't file because of the overwhelming number of cases where the Husband is just plain not given custody unless the wife is proven to Satan in the flesh. I felt I would have been leaving my kids in the jaws of the devil. Now I have no choice but to fight.

She has wiped out the bank. I can't afford a lawyer unless someone will take the case in the south metro atlanta area and work with me on terms. A combined retainer including Chp 7 bankruptcy protection would help me either way, support or custody but I am fighting for more than just custody, as she has no intentions of following any court ordered visitation I would receieve if I lost my custody fight, like their going to lock her up if she doesn't hold up her end of the agreement (they will of course, lock the man up for the same not holding up his side of the agreement.) She will turn this 9 year old boy that I love very much and that from me being at home more over the past three years has (surprise) cleared up all these nervous problems, anger issues, etc... to now just a good kid thats on the AB honor roll and gets ALOT of reader of the week certificates from his 3rd grade teacher. Does he still get in trouble? Yes, like alot of kids do, but he knows he is loved and he knows I don't turn that love off. He will walk up to me for no reason at all and just give me a hug and say "love ya Dad" and keep on going on his way. The 3 weeks I was out on the vengence vacation my "in danger" wife put me on last summer coincided with 1. fathers day, 2. my birthday, 3. fourth of july, and 4. plans me and son had for the first vacation I had been able to take in three years, whole family to the beach. But my wife chose to spend the money with a lawyer because she heard a woman's voice on the phone... My son became the most ill he has ever been in his life during the three weeks I was removed. The Docs had a hard time explaining how he got pnemonia during the end of June. Less than 2 days after I was back in the home, he was completely well.

Every thing I have written is TRUE. She will turn him into a demon when he becomes a teenager and decides all women are mean and cruel like his Mom.

I NEED SOME PRAYER, I NEED SOME LUCK, BUT I REALLY NEED REALISTIC INPUT!!!