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  1. #21
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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

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    Call the police for what?

    Jason, this is a civil matter that you are all going to have to work out amongst yourselves. If it can't be resolved there are options. These are not unusual circumstances when you live in an apartment building.
    this is what happened

    I was enjoying making love with my gf --about 5 weeks ago-- then suddenly someone rings my bell repeatedly and starts kicking my door and yelling would you guys stop having sex

    by the way that was maybe the second time we ever had sex, we only been together about 7 weeks, and the first time she ever complained.

    then next day I receive a phone call from the housing officer about her complaining about me, I told her what happened and I also told her that she is maybe overly sensitive b/c of the washing hands in the kitchen rule thing she has.

    The housing officer told me that her behavior is unacceptable and there is a certain amount of noise we should be able to tolerate, and that she is going to talk to her, and she kindly asked my to reduce the noise I make. I apologized --I didn't realize we were loud-- and we agreed that 1. its not going to happen after 10pm and before 7am, 2. its only going to happen during weekends and 3. we will not be vocal.

    all of which are fine with me.

    then time passed and i felt all is ok

    last weekend we were away from home all day long, when I come home i find a long note on my door saying something along the following lines: "having sex all day is not fun"

    so I went up to her house and ask if she wrote this note, she said yes, then I asked when did you hear us having sex because its been a week since we had any, and we were not home all day long!

    then she PHYSICALLY attacks me, pushes me, takes the note away, and shuts the door in my face.

    I told her, I have taken a photo of the note and I going to report you.

    she re-opens her door and starts being apologetic, and says let's be friends maybe it wasn't you that was making the noise after all, maybe it was your roommate, please don't go to the housing office, let's settle this by ourselves.

    I said I am going to think about it, but if you have any more issues with me don't contact me or don't leave notes on my door that EVERYONE can see, this is a private issue. And PLEASE stop being violent!!!!

    next morning i find yet another note, on my door apologizing and saying that the noise was not from me but from my roommate and that my roommate misled her to think the noise comes from me, and that she is going to talk to my roommate.

    that was Sunday,

    on Monday I receive an email from the housing office about the "ongoing noise" coming out from my apartment and she wants to meet with both me and my roommate

    I talked to my roommate and he told me that he wasn't home on that Sat, (i believe him because he is never home he stays in his gf house and is here only to take shower after he comes back from the gym)

    so I am not sure what she is trying accomplish and I expect her to lie as well.

  2. #22
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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    Then you should keep a log of everything that is happening. It sounds as though the housing management is going to try and work out something that will be acceptable.

    Since the neighbor has been wrong that you or your roommates are the ones causing all the noise problems, then that should work in your favor.

    She should not have pushed you. You should avoid contact with her and let the housing management deal with it. Be polite and courteous and try to comply with keeping the noise down. Perhaps in time you will be able to find a place where the walls are not paper thin or perhaps management will move you to a different apartment.

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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    Ok so I asked what was going on then you say it’s to private. Then you start yapping away about them


    As in;
    1. It only happens during weekends
    2. It only happens 2-3 times a week, a total of less than an hour
    3. It’s not after 10pm and before 7am
    4. When it happens we are not vocal.

    Again why are you just “beating around the bush”

    Tell us
    Is it the bed board knocking? Skin slapping? Loud buzzing noises?

    So tell us what’s up or stop asking general questions and wanting specific answers

    ie, if its the headboard then you stick a folded blanket between the wall and the bed..etc

    wd-40 for bed squeaks?

    tell us your real problem

  4. #24
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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    Maybe the real problem is that it only happens 2-3 times a week and the total time is <1 hour

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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    yep....

    thread closed

  6. #26
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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    Maybe the way to handle this is through compromise.

    Talk to your neighbor. Find out when she isn't going to be home.

    I knew one guy in college with an... um... overly expressive partner that would actually give us a gift certificate to a restaurant in town or a gift certificate to blockbuster.

    We would rent a movie, crank up the volume, and we wouldn't know. Or we would out be eating a meal and wouldn't know.

    OR... buy your neighbor a white noise machine that will mask the noise... or a set of really nice headphones....

    Or, best of all, move to a place where the walls and floor are not made out of used tissue paper.

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    Default Re: Neighbor Complains About Loud Sex

    other than the OP appears to be an exhibitionist or a braggart, if the management is telling you the neighbor is out of line, then ignore them, or invite them in.

    While a person is entitled to reasonably quiet enjoyment, reasonable is not intended to mean you must remain totally silent just because the neighbor has a problem with some noise. Noises from a neighbors apartment is just something one must learn to live with.

    Since you seem to enjoy publicizing your activities here, record your sessions and present them to the management as evidence you are not being abusively noisy.

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