The way we've worked with our tenants, we've been lenient with them, and them with us. So we've been by when some of them had parties, and even had us join them for a drink, and a bite to eat. I feel better when they treat me like a friend, and don't squawk about privacy..
And if you don't want to be that chummy, just have her pick up the stuff and leave. She doens't come by every day, does she??
If I was in the tenant's shoes, I want to work with the landlord as much as possible, so when I need a break, I get one too. Maybe someday, you need that day or so extra to come up with the rent.
I always beleive in the theory that one hand washes the other. I'm nicer to tenants that cut me a break.

