My question involves criminal law for the state of: Wisconsin

Me and my finace of 10 years recently got into a argument. I had told the police i was scared and how we got into a shoving and how we had hit each other. We are going to conseling and both getting anger managment classes, soon. We are both in the medical field and with a dv charge you can not be in the medical field. I called the cops initally to have them watch by as i was moving my stuff out of our house were me and my finace live together, because he was throwing my stuff out of the door, and i did not everything to get broken anymore. We both provoked each other i was just the one who called the cops. I am wondering if there are any chance that they will drop the case to disorderly conduct in stead of dv. the cop who took my statement said that he wasnt going to get a dv charge just disorderly conduct. We love each other very much and this is the first time that this has ever happen and we both were just too emotional and did not make wise decisions. How can i help to try to get the dv charges dropped if at all lessond? Anything will help. This whole insident is ruining our relastionship which on the last ten years we have had a great one, just a bad day and bad decisions.
Thanks