My question involves divorce in the State of:ny
I haved lived in ny all my life ,my age is 56 years old wife 54, son 13
met my future wife when she was 17
Married for 24 years
my son is now 13 years old
before he was born things started to change with my wife and i
after he was born when he was about 1 or 2 years old i was in basement
i picked up on the baby momitor a phone call
the second tome i taped it
wife was talking to some guy she worked parttime for he started to
he started to talk about a hotel visted they had she told him it did not happen
i told her that i knew ,she said the guy was a nut case said he was on meds for mental problems
i beleved her when she said it never happened i have good reason to beleve her
over the years she started to change , she became rude un responsive ,
she always did have a problem with affection but it got worse
there were times not always but i go to hug her ,she was tired ,sweaty, had a headace reading the paper
and so on always something , another thing she had a problem with saying i love you i told her it would be nice
if she would say it back ,she said you know i love you so why do i have to say so ,also she said she did not
like to be told what to do or say.funny thing this past year 07 for about a week and a half she started
saying she loved me at different times i have a hearing problem times i did not hear her so she wanted
an answear back she would repeat it.
Now it gets good my son plays these online game sites like runescape he started to use other game sites a few times
we had to tell him to watch his mouth whit some of the words he used , also i was worried about some other things
on these sites since he was able to chat with other players i wanted to keep and eye on them you never know who they are
any way i installed a key logger to keep watch ,
i began to notice that when my wife was on line she would close down a web page or hide it when i was nearby
plus she got very defensive when i joked around about her coming home late and that she was out more often,
it was not uncommom for her to do so , ever since i have know her she was like this she was always shopping
and going to different stores and stuff so i had no problem with that. anyway the logger picked up some strange
things like a email site pluse passwords to get in so i checke on the webshots from the keylogger, i went into shock
there was emails to and from a lover they talked about leaving me about her sex life wife this other guy ,the things
they did , where they would meet
the times when,
also it seems this guy is still married and he was married once before she has made plans to introduce my son to him (as herfriends
said so he can get to know him better)
she has with the help of her friends to decive me into thinking that my sons godfather is friends with this guy so that
he can meet him they are planning to have him as my sons sponser at his communiom in may which also would be deciving
the church since he would have to be approved by the church and go to confession ethe event
she has said to her friends about her emails with him how he thinks this is like meeting his son for the first time
there have been other commets about these thing,
Well i found out she was seeing this guy before my son was born they stopped seeing each other for some reason or other
after the child was born, i almost died when i caught this she went in dec 07 to see this guy after all these years to ask him this
she wanted to find out my sons family medical history from this guy (what does that tell you)i dont care as far as i am concern
he is my son an always will be no matter what the law says i love him and i know he loves me.
i raised him i stayed home to do so all these years my health is not that good heart problems, back , bad leg pains Diabetes
deaf in one ear she gave me a allowence of a hundred dollars in case their was a problem ,
i dont drive never have stopped working a year or so before he was born due to stress on the job and my heart condations i had tempory
workers compensation before he was born it ran out she we agreed that i would stay home and raise him .
about the age of 12 i looked for a job i got a few off the books could not do it due to medical problems (also its kind of hard to find work
at my age 56) and no skills, i am not afraid to work .
any way she does not know i know about all this also she said to her friend she does not want to wait 6 or 7 years for them to be
together and i am going to try to keep this from my som he is to young 13 for this i know what it can do to him
Any way i know this is to long here so what i need to know is what or how does ny law apply to me.
i am under a lot of stress as of now i have no job no money except what she gives me i have no medical benifits i tried in the beginning when my first doctor had me on tenpory benfits but for some reason he would not support me when i tried things began to move to fast thing and they got lost in the shufflle. i lost my disire to eat i have thought of suicide i cant sleep at nite but i will hold on for my SON.
thank you for your time

