To whomever may be able to help me,
I was recenty envolved in a domestic battery incident where I called the police to defend myself and my girlfriend from my girlfriend. Confused? Please dont be. She has a history of suicidal attempts, if you will. No success obviously, but several threats of suicide.
The facts:
1.) We live in Florida under the same roof for more than 30 days.
2.) I have lived at this residence for 1 year.
3.) She has lived at this residence for 2 months.
4.) She voluntarily gave up 2 of her children so they could live with their grandmother, her mother, 20 miles away, because she felt she was in no condition to take care of them.
5.) I have repeatedly attempted to end this releationship, and have several witnesses to this on several occasions.
6.) She will not leave my home.
7.) She has scars on her forearm that clearly suggest to anyone just meeting her, that she has attempted suicide, or seeks attention by cutting herself deliberately.
Specific facts about why I find myself here:
I was charged with domestic battery for "I grabbed her wrist to try and get the phone back...." She claimed that I threw her on the bed by the face and grabbed both of her wrists.
The fact is, and there's obviously no reason to lie here as this is annonymous, but I had the phone in my hand to start (stated in the police report) and as I threatened to call the police to come and calm her down, she grabbed the phone from out of my hand. I then attempted to grab the phone back emmediately and proceed to call 911. I got the phone back without touching her in an angry manor or in an offensive way. I consider it a defensive move to retrieve my property that was just taken from me while I was being hit in the chest. Am I wrong?
I dialed 911, and began to tell the operator about the situation and she is in the background wispering 'at' me in an angry way, how she wasn't going to let me get away with this etc. I'm sure the 911 system records these conversations and keeps them on record, right? They will clearly hear the pause after i gave her the phone to talk to them, when she placed the phone on the bed and proceeded to again tell me I wasn't going to get away with this... and then turned on the tears.
The officers arrive at my house. They come in and ask her to step outside. They look around to make sure all is well on the inside of the house and then asked me what happened. She was standing there so I suggested the officer talk to her to try and calm her down first. He took her out front and they spoke for what seemed like 20+ minutes. The officer then came in and asked me what happened and before I could exp-lain the situation, he stops me at one point and asks "did you grab her wrist?" I replied honestly stating "I grabbed her wrist to try and get the phone back because she was swinging at me." The officer stops me there, does not allow me to explain further and then steps outside. A few minutes pass and he comes back in and asks me to stand up and turn around. I was arrested for Domestic Battery because I told the truth and she lied. I admitted to grabbing her as she was swinging at me, and she denied ever touching me.
I was taken to jail and released the following day on a $50 bond due to no prior record. I havent has so much as a parking ticket!
I was served a temperary injunction while in jail, and she moved her kids into my house that very day. She contacted a Womens Advocate Group/Organization and they are now helping her. She is pulling out all the tricks on this one. I had 15minutes to grab anything and everything from my house that I might need for the next few weeks and told I could not come back under any circumstances.
She has family that lives 15 minutes away from my house, and I am completely alone in Florida due to being from about 1500 miles away originally. She took my house, my dogs, all my personal posessions etc. and is planning on dragging this out as long as she can.
What can I do? How do I prove my intent was only to help this woman after she lost her home, quit her job and gave up her children? I'm the one who called the police... and I find myself here. I know this sounds opinion based only, but this woman is using a system designed to help REAL women in need, to be vindictive and hurtful. She is angry and will use every recource available to inflict her vendetta upon me.
In desperate need of help....... please write me.
Scared_08

