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    Default Changing My Daughters Last Name in North Carolina

    My daughter has her fathers last name, and I have a different one. Her father abandoned her 5 years ago in California. Her and I moved to North Carolina a little over a year ago.
    My daughter no longer remembers any good times with him and states she does not have a father. He had physically and mentally abused her and has no feelings for him. His visitation was removed and he can never make contact again with her. He is forced to support her.
    She wants to have the same last name as me, which is my maiden name. She has cried over this for 2 years now. (She is almost 12). The fact that she has to carry the name of a man she despises really bothers her. I have gotten her school to call her by my last name, though legally on all the school paperwork it has the fathers last name. Here in North Carolina, the law states the child can only change her name if the father agrees, the father dies, or she turns 16. None of this has happened or will for a long time. I have sent him letters pleading with him to allow this to happen for the well being of my daughter. I even told him I would lower the child support if he allowed it to happen. In return I got an email from his new wife, telling me where I can shove the letters.
    Any suggestions? Any ways to get around this law in North Carolina? It is a very emotional issue for my daughter.

    Also I do have sole physical and legal custody of her, and a court order from Los Angeles, that he cannot have contact with her ever.
    Thanks.

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    Default Re: Changing My Daughters Last Name in North Carolina

    Have you consulted an attorney on the matter?

    I'm sure a good argument for abandonment could be made.

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    Default Re: Changing My Daughters Last Name in North Carolina

    Quote Quoting LawResearcherMissy
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    Have you consulted an attorney on the matter?

    I'm sure a good argument for abandonment could be made.
    I did actually call several back when I had a bit of extra money and not one returned my call on the situation. I now have no money whatsoever, so I cannot try again.

    I thought about the abandonment issue which he has done, except that he does pay (though forced to pay) for her support, so abandonment probably would not work.

    It is just so emotional for her to have to use this name from a man she no longer knows, and one who abused her.

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