
Quoting
525601minutes
For goodness sakes - if you keep looking so hard for people to be out to get you, then you will find people are out to get you.
There was no reason to be defensive as I was not judging her, only trying to get the facts. I was emphasing(sp?) YOU in my response to point out that the poster has/d no legal remedy to "force" the ex-wife to live up to the divorce decree. My questions were intended to invoke a response to supply me with information that would determine what line of action she could take - based on the OP there was NO legal remedy. If she was in dire need of advice then perhaps her reply would have been more timely.
Had she responded with information that she and the ex-husband were co-signer's on a HELOC with the ex-wife my answer would have been very different. The same goes if the OP was the mother of the ex-wife and the boyfriend used to be her son-in-law. Unlikely situations - of course - but you don't know when you do not have all of the relevant information. The OP was insinuating that SHE was effected by the ex-wife not removing her boyfriend's name from the mortgage...I was only trying to find out WHY.
I am very lucky that I can spend time trying to get all the facts before I suggest a line of action. I am fortunate enough not to have to work so I can volunteer my time to help others. I do it here and in 'real life' with a CASA program to make sure foster children do not fall thru the cracks in the legal system. If you do feel that the advice I offer is not legally sound then I suggest you ignore my posts and provide the askers with the correct information yourself.