I had been living with my girlfriend for 6 months, 5days when she informed me she was leaving, planning not to come back.

I am a "talker" when it comes to relationships so i decided to step in front of the door and say "i dont want to leave like this, tell me whats going on, please"

her reply was "move or ill hit you", I said "Dont be silly, please just talk to me, dont do this" At which point she punched me in the left cheek.

As a reflex i pushed her backwards and said waht are you doing. She came to me again, foolishly i thought she was going to kiss me. She began stomping on my foot about 7 or 8 times. Once again i pushed her backwards. Tehn she ran at me so i sidestepped put out my arm and fell her on top of me. (yes i have defensive practice) She began biting my side so i put out my hand and slapped her head off me. I wear a grad ring still and the inside of the rind left a small "ring ding" on her forehead. She was on my right side and i am right handed, so the mark proves how i had slapped her head, and i obviously did not mean to hurt her.

Then she did something i found....unbelieveable. She put her knee, in my neck and pumped her weight into it 3 times while i said..."no not my neck, thats serious". I broke my neck about a year and a half ago. I have metal rodss in my neck. The severity of damage that could have caused...was rediculous. At this point i said "F^#( it you can leave.

My one friend i had been speaking to online had informed many people in my home town that there was a fight. It snowballed and my mother recieved the message "I am in bed with a rebroken neck". She called the police. When they showed up at my house awakening me they saw the bruised cheek i had and inquired. I had nothing to hide i told them the entire story, less the "ring mark" which had HOESTLY been forgotten. They went and talked to her, I am still unsure of what she said. They returned to my home an hour later and arrested me for spousal abuyse. I am now going to court in 3 days.

I just dont understand how this charge is fair/valid

as far as i know due to 2007 canada revenue act...commonlaw marraige is 12 months. spousal abuse is either...emotional spiritual physical economical or sexual abuse. None of which i did. First she threatened me with emotional then she attacked me. I believe still what i did was self defence. I never went out of my way to purposely hurt her. In the end it seems like a "he said she said" case. I am just not sure. I have a prelim now and they want me to plead...What should i do?