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    Default Being Used - Help for the Abused

    Mr. Knowitall -- (read page one of www.smgemployee.com -- especially the last 2 paragraphs) as you say ....

    Of course, to the extent possible people should take care when they marry a foreign national that they are doing so to further a genuine relationship, and are not being exploited for immigration purposes.

    Rightfullyso -- as you said.
    True. And noted.
    But ........ what happens when they - a bona fide spouse - realized the marriage was just a tool for .... being used. Even if you suspect that is the case (pre-marriage) you will not know if it is actually that way -- unless you walk the road destiny has planned. The kind of "seeing is believing" first hand experience mode. Love for some people is a important thing. Even love on its own. So it must be found out - one way or the other. To be or not to be

    Would it be fair to sacrifice a relationship being a true relationship --because of something is that: just "suspect." Can't live on suspect or the outcome would be ... then there is regret -- and the never truly knowing. So it, truth, has to be found out (even if it is the hard way). Sometimes walking the road is the only way to find out what really is. So then I ask -- since once a person is in the boiling water, how to turn down the flame: once the find they have Fraud on their hands ? What was asked is: How to get an official form for a "Withdrawal of Petitions" instituted for all honest americans to have as a safeguard if they discover or are told outright they are being used. The spouse or people commiting the criminal Fraud gets their INS / DHS "work permit" and official worldwide "travel permit (docs)" in 90 DAYS, 2 seconds after the 90 day period. I saw it happen. So Fact ! -- The victim has to take years to stop it and stop the Fraud ? And an annulment can take 6 months with paper prep and court time to process ... and cost plenty in dollars and cents. Further, the bona fide spouse suffers even more profound damages cause they know what the Fraud spouse is getting away with and have to live with that Every Night. And the Fraud spouse can get double the pleasures and more by knowing and pushing in the face of the bona fide spouse -- that: no one in America will really do anything about it (their confirmed VIsa or Marriage Fraud) -- until long after they the Fraud Spouse has gotten what they want and had all the fun they want. Including the Adulteries. A corral of new livestock america becomes for the play around person. The official form ... for ... a "Withdrawal of Petitions" ... would stop it, all the Fraud's gratification -- immediately. And, at best: no further National Benefits would be issued by the U.S. goevernment to the spouse in question. How do we get that ??? An official "Withdrawal" form -- that will then be flagged by the computers, notifying the necessary Divisions at U.S. Immigration for immediate action. There is the question. And the Challenge. No one has made that history yet. And it is about time it is done -- forever and always. For all Americans. Now those words have meaning. Thanks.

    Walking the road of ... to discover. Life can make a difference. So can people.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jan 2006
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    Default What do i do?

    I'm scared. In May I married a man from England. I loved him and that is why I married him. Now it seems our relationship has changed-there has been no physical intimacy for almost 5 months, and he seems to be constantly worried about our finances (making sure I have a job which will take care of us). He currently has a job, and has a Permit to work legally, but his salary is near poverty level-and he doesnt seem to bothered by it, but in my case he gets irritated at the thought that he might have to get a second job to help out if I get laid off. I have two children from a previous marriage. He has a child from a previous marriage that is still in his home country. His personality has changed, and he just doesnt seem to care what I think or how I feel. Also whenever any members of his family call our house he goes into another room to speak with them. They say very little to me-"Hello, is (so and so) there?" I pass the phone to my husband and that's it. They sent just him a Christmas card and just him a present. He has also asked me if, once he gets his actual visa to stay here, how soon after can his child come to visit.
    All this makes me nervous. He can be so secrative. What do I do? I am afraid and also worried that if it is fraud on his part that I too will be in trouble even though I married him for the "right reasons."

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