I just wanted to get an opinion on this Iam in the middle of a nasty divorce it has been going on for 2 years now, we are delayed again in court because my soon to be ex wants more money from me. I am a hard working man who when we went to court was granted custody of my 2 older children we have 3 kids, the youngest wanted to stay with her mother. In the beginning the courts awarded my ex 2500 a month. the 2 older kids decided they wanted to live with me so they lived with me for 6 months before the courts even got me any money back. now iam paying 1500 a month to the ex for child support and maintenence. I walked away from our house and left it to her she stopped paying the mortgage after the 2 kids moved in with me, she said her lawyer advised her to stop paying. like i said earlier she was still getting the 2500 dollars a month. the lawyers based the payment on her bills and the mortgage. the house is now in forclouser and they have frozen my accounts so I cant pay my bills and take care of my children. My ex refuses to get a job she says that she will not take a job that is beneath her she says she will be attending school so that she can better herself and get a better paying job, the problem is she refuses to take more than 2 classes at a time refuses to go to school in the summer and does nothing all day. (our daughter she has is in school all day.) she is 40 years old and at the rate she is going she will never have a job, which iam sure is her goal. anyway for how long am i going to have to be responsible for her. When I look at my paycheck she makes more than i do. how is this fair. shouldent she have to find work. I want to move on with my life i have met someone else and we just want to move on with out having to deal out most of our paychecks to the ex every week, I could see if she was trying to do for herself like working and trying to make ends meet but shes not. she also lives with her boyfreind and just got back from a cruise. if anyone has any suggestions please let me know, my lawyer is not helping

