I understand your point. This trip was first discussed between my side of the family last summer. Our daughter knew about the trip then. I was banned (by him) from calling, texting and even e-mailing him about anything several months ago. As an example he had to take her to the ER in January one night and left it to her to tell me the following day when he dropped her off in our parking lot instead of taking her to school as scheduled.
When I had to take her back to the ER the next night I left him a voice mail and followed up with an e-mail when we got home. He sent back a nasty e=mail telling me to stop bothering him - that he knows everything going on in his daughter's life and does not want nor need my input.
SO it was after that last family moment a few weeks ago I sent him the consent to travel form. This was before the deposit was due. When he did not return it I asked our daughter to call him to ensure he got it and make sure he knew the trip was free for her. BTW - this is one of the very few times I broke my own rule of not using the child as a messenger

She did and confirmed he had the details.
The reservation deadline was Saturday so my parents sent it in - not knowing that he had any objections to the trip. He heard me ask the judge about the trip in court and still did not tell me himself that he refused permission. He left it to our 14 year old to break the news.
How do you co-parent when the other parent refuses to acknowledge your exsistence???
HEY!!! Exactly what would happen to me if I went without his permission?? He never told ME no. He never told the court no. Our MSA says we both have full legal right to act independently of the other relating to our child... and says nothing about travel out of state. We went to Alaska in 2006 and Hawaii in 2007 without written consent. How do I KNOW that I can't go to Israel without permission?