If your child is now age 14, and it has been almost 10 years since the biological father has had contact with you or the child, and he has never paid child support, you most likely have adequate grounds for a step-parent adoption by your husband. And this would be true even if biological father voiced objection.

Best advice is to confer with a NY family law lawyer.

And as part of the step-parent adoption, the child's name would be changed.

LDG