Is it considered adultry for a spouse to whisper about sex with someone other than their spouse and that person is of the opposite gender. Is it acceptable, Especially when their spouse is within hearing proximity of the conversation?
I know I am asking a lot, but must a spouse tolerate and accept such behavior?
I am in a situation fighting to stay in - so far - a 28 year marriage, within the last few years at different intervals ,I have addressed concerns with my spouse about whispering conversations I feel is inappropriate and disrpectful, because it is about sex with someone of the opposite gender, other than me.
They, my spouse, feel it is just innocent fun and conversation.
I must include that I have been approached by others and informed of inappropriate behavior and talk between my spouse and someone else of the opposite gender.
To add, I have asked my spouses sister for advice after providing the details. So far I have only been factually able to come to the conclusion this is wrong and must stop.
But yet I wish to respect my spouses privacy and try to understand that it is just all innocent fun.
My spouse and I do not speak of sex, rarely have sex. They state it embarrasses them. They were raised to think sex was dirty.
DUH - is all I can think -
Oh Yeah - I must say it is continually with the same person, an in-law they have known 30 years (2 more than our marriage).
I am really struggling here to hang on to my 28 years of marriage, nearly 29 come april 2006. But after addressing my concerns with my spouse three times now over a period of four years and they persist in feeling it is innocent and will continue to stand by this.
I am making damn sure of this, it is a major decision on my part. And I appreciate any and all advice that ...
1. Will ensure that my upbringing and thinking about this
is correct and walk away from 28 years.
2. Receive God Aspiring words that will save what I feel is a
Sacred Sacrement.
Thank you to any and all that provide advice.
Sincerely....
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