My pregnant ex-girlfriend is 17 and is due in August. Her and her family are planning to move out of state ASAP.
After trying to get me to move up there (Im in North Carolina) and me turning the idea down, shes decided to take full control and wants sole custody, the baby will have her last name. While I pay child support and shes going to "allow" me to come visit whenever I want.
I want joint custody with the child having my last name, summers and other vacations and alternating holidays with me.
Shes being unreasonable and every time I try to talk to her she gets extremely irrational and threatens me with a restraining order.
To get what I want, I know I'll have to take her to court, but she said if I go to court she'll push for sole custody and I wont be able to visit at all.
I really don't know where to start, if I should hire a lawyer, when I should hire a lawyer, how much a lawyer would cost.
If someone could help I would appreciate it.
Thank you.

