I have a similar situation. My ex-wife and I have a son together. When I remarried, she constantly caused us problems and even went so far as to make false accusations that I had sexually abused my 4 year old son.

After being evaluated physically and mentally, there was no indication of abuse. However, she continued to push it and a guardian ad litem was appointed and it was ordered that my son, his mother and I had to be evaluated by a psychologist. After an extensive interview and a great number of standardized test, the psychologist reported that he did not feel there were grounds for her claim. However, all of this took almost a year to weed itself out. . .during this time I had to have supervised visitations.

We tried to make a case of parental alienation and others, however we were not able to prove it. After nearly a year, over $40,000 in legal fees, my regular visitation was restored. As you can imagine, this put a tremendous strain on my relationship with my son as well as my marriage to my second wife.

The insanity didn't stop there. My ex-wife continued to cause problems for us. This problems, coupled with the financial burden placed on us was too much for us and our marriage to handle.

My son is now 9 years old and has a great deal of anger/rage. He totally thinks that his last name is that of his mother's maiden name. Bottom line, she is such a vendictive person that she does not want to see me happy. I have sought, but have not been given any relief from the court system. It is very frustrating and I am honestly considering relinquishing my parental rights.

I have read the other postings and I agree that the person in the first post should fight. However, it comes down to what is in the best interest of the child? The courts have not given me relief and my son is getting worse and worse. I am honestly affraid that he could turn out to be one of those kids that shoots up a school or kills his brother or something horrible like that.

I welcome any thoughts.