I live in NJ, NCP lives in PA. I had left with our son (now 4) due to documented mental and physical abuse and drug use. Then he had not seen or attempted to support his son for (2) years. He filed for modification this May 2007, and won a reduction in support and visitation. The judge stated "It does not matter if a father is a good father or a bad father, every child deserves a father no matter what he does." The visitation is the 1st Sunday of every month, supervised for 2 hours at a park next to a police station where I currently live. Also 15 min phone conversation every Sunday at 630pm.
He had showed for one visit in July 2007. In the order, he is supposed to give notice if he is not going to come for visitation - he has not done at all. Since he has not made good on child support, I had to close my home phone. I gave him my cell number instead. He had not called since 8/2007 until a few days ago. However, within this period, death threats were sent to my cell phone from his number. Police reports were filed.
Now, this Sunday, he called at *exactly* 630 to speak with his son. I lied, and told him he was asleep. My son is afraid of him, and all of the *in* *out* has completely confused him. He now threatened me saying that I have denied him phone conversation because I closed my landline account, and I kidnapped his son because I will not drive 3 hours to bring my son to him to visit - I am following the court order.
He said he was going to have me arrested, however I did nothing wrong. How can I get this order modified, and will they do it? I wanted the father to have random drug testing, and parenting classes before visitation was initiated, however that was denied. I do not want my son to be hurt anymore.
What can I do?