Hi all
I am in need of some advice on a domestic assault charge against me. Here is some info leading up to the charge. I had a sexual relationship with a girl at the start of this year. We slept together a few times. I really was not attracted to her and told her that we should be friends. The sexual relationship ended there. Bout a month later we decided to move to a bigger city, as it would be better for both of us. We moved and both leased (6mo) a 2bedroom place. On the 6th of October my roommate told me that she had a friend from back home who wanted to move and she wanted to move with her. She put it to me like either I can move before the end of the month or she was leaving anyways. After a heated argument I told her that I had planned to fulfill my part of the contract and if she wanted to leave that was up to her. I then told her that I did not want to talk to her again and shut my bedroom door and didn’t talk to her. She proceeded to continue to ask me to move while talking to the door. Again the next day she kept asking me to move. I did not talk to her that day either. Sunday I come home from turkey dinner and she has a note asking for my decision. I write on the note "I have already told you what to do...WTF???" The next day she comes home and we do not talk for bout 15 min....I leave my room and have a smoke on the balcony. She then comes to the balcony door asking me for my decision. I do not answer the first time she again asks. I say, "I have already told you what to do. If you want to break your contract go ahead and that it was not very nice to expect me to move when told on the 6th and to decide what I am doing on the 6th” She come back and says "well move on the 6th then" After that I told her I was not going to move and she should be responsible for her part of the rent if I can not find another roommate. She gets mad at me and tells me to go F*** myself...she will not pay. I am like ok well I go to the RT office and see what they will do. She tells me to get screwed. I then stand up from sitting and point my finger at her (about 2 arms lengths away) and proceed to tell her that she is rude, mean, a big city girl that is a snob/ b*tch. She then hits/jabs my hand with her keys. She then throws her keys at me hitting me in the chest. Right after that I slapped her. Not hard but a open handed slap on her cheek, it was reaction to her hitting me as it was less than a second after she through the keys...I did not go after her in anyway in fact she kept coming after me.
So my questions are:
Is this self-defense? The cop didn’t think so (as I am a little bit bigger than her, not much) hence me being charged and not her. What are my chances on beating this as self-defense?
What is the difference between domestic and just regular assault? Is it true if once you sleep with someone that even years or months later and you have broken up. That anything that happens between the people it is treated as a domestic issue.
Is it domestic assault to point your finger and say your mind? At no time did I threaten her
Why is it that a girl can hit you and not get charged? How much abuse should a man take? And at what point am I allowed to defend myself?

