After 23 years together (17 years married) my 50+ husband had an affair with his married female co-worker (30+). She was fired, he was laid off & not called back. He gave her money for her divorce before leaving me, and has been living with her for 1+ years. I have copies of checks he wrote on our joint account to her, their love letters, etc. I filed for divorce, but he refuses to pay on our marital bills, including a mortgage and equity loans in both names, property taxes, house/auto ins., and joint credit cards. I no longer have medical coverage-he won't pay for it. He took the truck my father gave me (in both names) which is paid off, left me the truck I still owe on. The judge granted temp. spousal support of $200 a month; my husband was on unemployment of $1,100 a month at the time, (I mostly worked part-time during our marriage), but my husband is a paramedic who can earn $16 an hour, he now works as a clerk-$10 hr. I remain in the home, and work 2 jobs to pay our bills (earn about $1000 a month), but the banks are foreclosing, as we are 3 months behind on both loans. I hired a lawyer last year, who, after making mistakes on my case, quit after 8 months, citing my "unrealistic expectations". (No refund either). My husband made a settlement offer 6 months ago; 1. I get no support at all, 2. I keep the house (which I love, but can't pay for without support), 3. I keep new truck (and the payments) and the junk autos--4. He gets the payed off truck, boat/trailer/motor, tools. No mention of the joint bills. I made a counter-offer which he never answered, so we go to property settlement mediation in 2 days. We will have to sell the house before we lose it, but I have no place to go. House was appraised in 2002 at $127,000, but HIS choice of realter claims it would sell for less than $90,000; we owe $89,000 (+ sales costs). I know I need to hire a new lawyer, (legal aid won't help-no minor children) but until I can come up with the $$, any suggestions ?