My husband and I have been married since 1/2000. I told him a few months back I wanted a divorce and he said ok, but asked that he be able to stay in the house untill he got his own place. I said ok. as long as he wasnt violent. Instead he got creepy and would curl up crying in a ball on the floor in the mornings, and was just really depressed. I eventually stopped talking about a divorce, and now he is talking about plans for the future. I dont want to fight with him, so i am keeping my mouth shut, I still want a divorce. I have turned the papers into the facilitator in our county, but I havent heard back from them. How long do i wait to have him served, and should i get a restraining order? I know its final after 6 months, but does he have to sign the papers or is california an uncontested state? we also have 3 kids aged 3-9. but he has been in prison 60% of there lives. I dont know how to do this so any help would be great. He scares me.

