My adoptive daughter is 17 and has been diagnosed with Reactive Attachment Disorder. She has been in Juvenille Detention for assaulting me and her biological sister and for vandalism. We have been seeing a therapist for over a year. She has improved a little but the tension she causes in the household is unbearable for all of us.
My husband recently returned from Iraq and has Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome. His vehicle was shot at and he has a minor injury on his temple. He is having a very hard time dealing with my daughter's nasty comments and very disrespectful attitude. My dealings with her have put me on the verge of a nervous breakdown. I am on several medications to try to cope with her demanding and controling behavoir.
Can we help her get a job and then literally get her out of our home at 18? Do we have to go to court or can we just pack her bags and change the locks?
Appreciate any suggestions. (Chester Virginia)

