I am almost 8 months pregnant. Have not heard from father for entire pregnancy but been in touch with his mother who informed me that after the child is born and paternity is established the father plans on being fully involved. He currently has a history of drugs, DWI's, no license, no address because travels for work, but an excellent job. My plan all along, has been to leave the state and return to Chicago where I have many more resources to assist me (friends, some family).
Since he apparently is going to pursue paternity hearings after the birth then would it be a better decision to leave the state and have paternity established from a court in Illinois or to wait for paternity to be established in NY? Should I wait for paternity to be established in NY and then try to move is there a high likelihood that I would have a difficult time trying to petition to leave because it would be putting distance between child and father? I am more then willing to come back to NY monthly to assist him with visitation and have the door open for him to come out and visit at any time that he wishes. However, I do not find it in the best interest of the child or myself to stay in the location that we are in because of poor career opportunities and few to no emotional/ social supports.
Also, I have been concerned about having to go to court with him in the long run because he does have a substantial amount of money. He has four previous DWI's and an assault charge but because of the lawyer he had only had to pay fines. He has never had to fulfill any sort of jail time. His brother has a two year old son with an ex girlfriend and when they broke up took her to court for full custody and won.