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    This isn't so much directed at emancipation because from what I read, emancipation isn't for just getting away from your parents.
    Anyways, this is my story.

    I started dating my girlfriend a year and about four months ago, she was 15 at the time, I was sixteen.
    As of now, she's 16, and I'm going to be 18 in November.
    Her Mom, has something against me, I don't know what, I've always tried to treat her with respect, I've never influenced her daughter to do anything immoral etc. etc. and I think it may be because she's Catholic, and I'm not.
    Anyways, the situation that we're in, lately she hasn't been letting her talk to me (I live in Arizona, she lives in California) and she's been sneaking around and whenever she catches her, I hear he screaming, very inappropriate names that a mother shouldn't call her daughter, slapping noises, and crying.
    I've had her take pictures of the bruises and the marks.
    Recently, her mother snapped her cell phone, that was a gift from me, in half.
    This isn't what really is the concern, it's about the abuse, not only mental and emotional, but physical.
    My mother would want nothing more than for her to be in a safe home and is ready and willing to take care of her.
    How should we go about reporting the abuse, and then, how could my mother gain custody of her?

    Thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: Problems, problems, problems..

    Get the idea that your mother will gain custody right out of your head, because it is NOT going to happen.

    The first thing you can do is STOP CONTACTING HER. And if she contacts you, hang up.

    As long as she is under 18, what Mom says goes. if Mom has said that she may not have contact with you, then she may not have contact with you. There is NOTHING in the law that is going to force a parent to allow her minor child to see or be in touch with someone she doesn't want her to see or be in touch with, regardless of what a nice guy you are.

    If the physical abuse continues, your girlfriend can call CPS. If they find it necessary to take her out of the home (which is not likely) they will NOT be sending her out of state.

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    Default Re: Problems, problems, problems..

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    Get the idea that your mother will gain custody right out of your head, because it is NOT going to happen.

    The first thing you can do is STOP CONTACTING HER. And if she contacts you, hang up.

    As long as she is under 18, what Mom says goes. if Mom has said that she may not have contact with you, then she may not have contact with you. There is NOTHING in the law that is going to force a parent to allow her minor child to see or be in touch with someone she doesn't want her to see or be in touch with, regardless of what a nice guy you are.

    If the physical abuse continues, your girlfriend can call CPS. If they find it necessary to take her out of the home (which is not likely) they will NOT be sending her out of state.
    Yea, I figured that was the situation.

    The problem doesn't lie in us being able to contact each other, I understand that. What I want is the abuse to stop.

    In California, do the parents HAVE to agree to the marriage? Is this decision up to her PARENTS or her legal guardians?

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    Default Re: Problems, problems, problems..

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    Yea, I figured that was the situation.

    The problem doesn't lie in us being able to contact each other, I understand that. What I want is the abuse to stop.

    In California, do the parents HAVE to agree to the marriage? Is this decision up to her PARENTS or her legal guardians?
    Her parents ARE her legal guardians. Leave the child alone...she is being punished for being in contact with YOU! YOU are contributing to this situation by DISRESPECTFULLY maintain contact despite knowing that her parents are against this relationship. When the girl is 18 she may leave home, run off to be with you and become a statistic.

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    Her parents ARE her legal guardians. Leave the child alone...she is being punished for being in contact with YOU! YOU are contributing to this situation by DISRESPECTFULLY maintain contact despite knowing that her parents are against this relationship. When the girl is 18 she may leave home, run off to be with you and become a statistic.
    Wow, thanks for trying to help instead of just flaming me...
    Oh wait..

    Parents aren't always the legal guardian.
    It's HER decision to be in contact with ME.
    Disrespectfully? You know very little of the situation, I think if anyone is being disrespected, it's me for being discriminated based on my OWN personal beliefs.

    I came to this forum, seeking advice on getting legal help, not to listen to you bitch at me. So, unless you have anything positive, go read a book.

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