Yeah, I wrote a novel....
I live in Virginia. Southwestern Va to be exact. I am having a lot of problems in my home. A lot of which are my fault, and a lot that aren't. There have been various legal issues brought up. I have never been charged with anything, arrested or anything. I could pass a drug test, and there wouldn't be a trace of anything in me. I don't smoke, drink, sneak out, or really do anything.
I am engaged to a guy that they do not approve of. And they have very good reasons, he is turning 19 on the 21st, and has been in and out of jail. He was found not guilty on all charges but one, which was dropped. But he still spent jail time. I am also adopted, and have been in contact with my real mom and little brother for five years with my parents consent.
Naturally, the older I got, the more freedom I wanted. The more they would restrain me. It got to the point, I was allowed 15 mintues every two days with my fiance because I could not be 'trusted'. I hadn't done anything (at that time), my parents just felt like they were losing me because I was wanting to move out. They accused me of stealing the car, and instead if leaving the car unlocked while it was in the garage like they did for 16 years, they would lock it and hide the keys. If I needed something out like my purse, one of my parents had to get the keys, unlock it and escort me out to the garage. I used to be able to take moms credit card, go in and order something to go, no problem. Suddenly, I wasn't allowed to touch her card. She accused me of stealing a check, which she later found. She had lost it. .I became extremely frustrated because I did not understand the treatment I was getting. I started freaking out.
Then they took me to court. I used to have an issue with cutting, and after all the frustration in the home, I had a relapse. This was the first time I told my parents about it, which was my mistake. They then classified me as 'out of control' and took me in front of a judge. They were going to give me 5 days dentention, but where my father is a truency officer for the schools, he knows they judge personally and talked her out of it.
So when they took me to court, they informed me, in front of the judge, they had arrested my fiance for tresspassing and he was currently sitting in jail. ((((BACKSTORY: He had been kicked out of his apartment, becasue one of the other residents there got drunk, and came over to him and started calling me ugly and a lot of things. So my finace got mad and they fought. The guy said he wouldn't press charges if my finace left. So he did and didn't have a place to stay. He walked ot my house, came to the window and I let him in, we talked and other things...then I gave him a pillow and blanket and he slept in the woods below my house. I left my window open so he could come in, and shower and sleep in my bed after I left for school and mom and dad left for work. Mom came home early and found him)))) Then they went on to lie to the judge about finding 5 loratabs in my purse, and that it wasn't the first time that had happened. That they had evidence that I had sold them. Which, is NOT true. Dad said he felt like I was out of control. He then went on to say he felt I should not be allowed to have any contact with my Biological Mother or little brother or my finace until I am 18.
I was having a breakdown by this point, I was fully prepared to tell the judge about all the mental and verbal abuse that went on in the house before those bombshells. To tell them about dad calling me fat,that I need to stop eating, that I should go make myself puke. Mom telling me I am stupid, worthless. All that. My mom told me we were going to have a conference with a lawyer, not a court hearing. I wasn't prepared.
Since then, everythings just collapsed. I need to fix this soon. I cannot go 11 months without contact from my Fiance or my mom or little brother. I cannot stand another 11 months doing exactly as they tell me. I have been emotionally ready to move out since I was 15. But my parents refuse to consent to let me move out and get a place before I am emancipated. They refuse to sign for my emancipation if I move out alone.
With all of that back story, useless or not, I just wanted people to get a good idea of the situation, here comes my question.
I was reading that a minor could still be emancipated while living with their parents. Yes, I know I will get a comment that has the bolded statement 'Must be living seperately and finacially stable' and all that jazz.
But, my parents to agree to do this. They are going to give me a monthly rent, and all the bills are divided into thirds. (theres only 3 people in this house). I am responsible for toiletries, groceries, school lunches, gas money, water,electricity, cable, cell phone, internet, clothes, rent, and anything else. They are thinking of making my rent (including water and electricty and cable) 300$ a month. I am working anywhere from 30-40 hours a week, 6.50 an hour and averaging around 1000-1200 a month, while going to high school and keeping my grades up. I have a few side jobs like, babysitting and other things like that that help with my income. Before attempting to go to court, I would work for a month or so and save up my money. I would still live at home after being emancipated, but be totally self sufficent, I wouldn't get any help from them. I am in line for a job making 8 dollars an hour, again getting 30-40 hours a week.
Could I get emancipated in doing this? There are a lot of bugs that still need to be sorted out with my parents, but I think this could work. Both sides are kind of getting what they want, and still both are sacraficing something. As long as I respected them, and they respected me. One of the rules WOULD NOT BE that I couldn't see my finace or mom or little brother. That would dissolve up. One rule would be that I would have to agree, in writing, not to move out before I am out of High School. And I couldn't drink or anything. Then they would repsect me enough to come and go as I please....
Before I attempt to take this in front of a judge, I am going to work for about 6 weeks saving up. My parents agreed that during that time I would be responsible for my things, (cleaning stuff, shampoo, cell phone, and they chose they water bill for some reason...). They would take the money I payed and put it back, just incase this didn't work out I could get it back. They are going to write down the amount, the date, and we all three intial it that way there won't be any question of the amount. Once we are about to take it to court, I am to make all the above reant payments and everything for two months before they will bring it before a judge.
Could this work?

