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Shellyh79606
I understand the moral reason to inform the father but it also brings up many emotional issues that a child might have to deal with like what if the father is a jerk and doesn't call enough or isn't enough involved..
Then your daughter should have thought about that before she laid down and made a baby with him instead of worrying about her genitals tingling.
or what if he is overly involved and wants more and more than he's entitled to?
Entitled to??? IT'S HIS CHILD FOR GOD'S SAKE. Is there a such thing as your daughter being overly involved. It's cases like these where even if dad was going to try and be a stand up guy, he could do nothing right. What do you mean more than he's entitled to? If he established paternity and (hopefully) gains joint custody of the child, he's just as entitled as your daughter to make decisions regarding that child.
both situations put a strain on the sitation more than needed. This is already a tough emotional situation and unfortunately since the women are the womb's we usually have to carry the burden of trying to do the right thing in either involving or not involving the father.
No, you should carry the burden of choosing the father of your child WISELY prior to becoming pregnant. After that... you learn to live with the decisions you make. The courts tend to make sure (again if he exercises his rights) to make sure of whether or not he's involved and to what extent.
I guess that wasn't much help but maybe it makes understanding why the girl doesn't want to tell the father a little more understandable.
Not in the least. It helps you make yourself feel better for encouraging your daughter in making a BAD decision. One after another it seems.
by the way my husband is adopted so we've never know his medical history and yes that's been a concern but I don't know my grandmothers medical history much better or my mothers and I know them. ?