I met my dominican wife in 4/06 at the bar where she worked.
we married in 10/06. She received her condition resident status 5/07. She filed Restraining Order 6/07. She filed 2 and I had both dismissed. I truly loved her and thought she loved me. Even tho everyone warned me that she was using me, I was convinced she was a very good woman and that it wasn't just for papers. She had a 2 month old baby when I met her. I took care of the child as my own. I was ok with her working in the bar while she had no papers, I thought it was well understood that when she can get legitimate job she would. when she received her CR status she immediately changed. She then said she would get another job when we bought a car. She said she wouldn't make enough money at another job. I complained to her for months that I wasn't happy with the marriage because we were spending very little time together. I work days, She worked nights. We only had Sat, Sun together. She also started working 7 days per week. or so she says she was working. After she filed the TRO, I accessed her voicemail. her phone was in my name. I found 17 saved voicemails from the past 2 weeks from several different men who were customers at the bar she worked. All talking about giving her gifts, wanting sex with her. I then sent in a consent form the phone carrier to check for text messages. I received the copies and they were of a romantic nature. I checked all the phone records and saw that she had been calling several men regularly. I had questioned her in the past about customers calling but she assured me it was just them saying they were coming by or she would call them to get them to come buy drinks ( standard practice in nj latin bar employing illegals) The bar is not a go-go, but men buy the girls drinks and they dance together. Salsa, merengue, etc. It is now very obvious to me that I was a complete fool to trust her.
She is trying to claim domestic abuse, but like I said, I've had 2 TRO dismissed, the judge did not believe her at all. I was very good to her.
Should I just go for Divorce or Annulment? I just want to get this whole thing over with. I have not spoken with her since 6/07, I've only seen her in court.
Can I handle this myself or do I need an attorney? I do not have much cash right now for an attorney.
Do I need to notify Immigration of my desire to not be her sponsor and that we are divorcing? Should I tell them that I believe now that her intentions were fraudulent? What is my responsibility to her as her Sponsor? I just want to move on, not get revenge. I know she will continue to try to claim DV to be able to get Permanent Residence status. Should I try to fight it?
HELP

