I recently had our modification hearing. The 'abusive' attitude my ex has been expressing is only recently adopted. He, witin the past year has just retired from the military and I believe he is having a difficult time adjusting to life in the 'real world'. He is a completely different person since his retirement. I want to explain I am NOT ever planning on denying him visitation. He has parental rights but I believe the situation isn't a healthy one and maybe supervised visition would be better for everyone. The boys are happy when they spend time with their aunt (his sister) but recently he had a falling out with her and he said she is not to see the kids.
I seriously doubt I can afford to fork out another several thousand dollars for court and I do realise that the courts look down upon putting children on the stand so I have to be careful how I handle this. If my ex were a reasonable, caring, nourturing person we could probably work this out ourselves but he isn't any of those things.