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Mark47n
Fair enough. There are a lot of adult children living with their parents and for a lot of different reasons, the most common being the cost of housing. I don't have an issue with this arrangement as long as said children are not acting like children. Given the tone and petulance I sense in the OP's writing it sounds like there's a lot of child and a lot less adult. I'll accept that I may be reading a lot in between the lines and I may have been influenced by my state of mind at the time.
I have two daughters, 20 and 22, one is in Norfolk VA and is in the Navy, the other lives on her own and works as a Vet Ass't. There are still issues that arise periodically about to whom the house belongs (this often crops up when we've made modifications to old bedrooms, like painting. My wife and I have made it clear that while they will always have a home with us, where ever we are, the house belongs to us, not them. Towards the end of my younger daughter living with us there were distinct issues that arose that smack of the attitude that comes through this OP's writing that bring forth my support of the OP's dad. It would not surprise me if the OP had adequate prior notice but simply ignored it or forgot...but now I'm in the realm of wild and biased speculation. Perhaps dad is an unreasonable jerk or, conversely, maybe mom is an enabling, codependent mess. I don't know.