My question involves estate proceedings in the state of: New York
My mother passed away 10 months ago. She left the apartment to my brother and most everything else to my sister. I was excluded. My siblings have essentially lawyered up and will not grant me access to the apartment to get my personal items from the apartment. My brother lives there now. The Estate attorney sent me a letter of items that my brother listed as my personal effects. He is asking me to verify the list so the items can be shipped to me. All these items are from my childhood and adolescence. I have not lived in the apartment in over 20 years so I don't recall all the items still there. However, I visited frequently and know that none of my belongings were discarded over the years. I would like to stop by and make sure I am not leaving anything behind. This is essentially a one time shot to get my stuff. It seems that the situation has deteriorated to the point that I have sent 4 emails and a letter to m bother requesting to set up a time for this, all of which have gone unanswered. The estate attorney wants me to sign off on the list. At first glance, the list seems to be missing some items. I don't want to do a back and forth with him where I recollect one or two items and forgo other items that might be there that I simply don't remember.
What legal rights/ options or strategies do I have to compel him to grant me access to make sure nothing is left behind.