I don't need to rely on the nasty ex to keep the roof over my head. I make enough money to cover a mortgage. The problem is she refinanced the house without me knowing and took the money as a deposit down on her townhouse. It is just getting the judge to reclaim that money so I can reduce the cost of the marital home. She also has approx. 60k more in net value in her house so she will have to buy me out.