Alas, it's easy for us to say that the OP should stay where she is but sometimes that's just not possible or practical. At the same time we all have to live with consequences of our actions.
"Where do those stairs go?"
"They go up!"
Now if you think that a court reviewing a relocation application (De Novo) 2 hours away is going to award physical custody to the father of an 11 year old girl instead of the mother, well I don't think so.
And physical custody doesn't change the actually custody of 50/50.
Wow...not only seriously sexist but massively behind the times.Now if you think that a court reviewing a relocation application (De Novo) 2 hours away is going to award physical custody to the father of an 11 year old girl instead of the mother, well I don't think so.
Bud, 50/50 refers to a timeshare. Joint legal and physical custody refers to parents jointly having custody rights and decision making regarding their children and that during their time, their children are physically in their custody. Parents can have joint legal and physical custody without having a 50/50 timeshare.And physical custody doesn't change the actually custody of 50/50.
Thank you for taking time to respond! I appreciate it. I received some conflicting answers, weighing them, may just go to court. Thanks again!!
I want to thank all of you for taking time to offer your input. It all has been very helpful. I'm going to see a family law attorney locally and try to deal with this through
mediation, which seems to be the first step. Again, great input from all, thanks again!!
I'm not sure what "50/50 custody" means since that's a term found nowhere in the California Family Code. Does your divorce judgment actually use that term? Or is it just a term you're using to summarize what your divorce judgment says? Also, what, if anything, does the divorce judgment say about either parent relocating?
Actually, a typical 11 YO (6th grade) is certainly capable of being alone at home for 3 to 4 hours at a time. A child that age should be capable of fixing simple meals and snacks, starting homework, caring for pets, simple housework... The biggest issue is transportation to and from school, appointments and activities. I know children that age capable of supervising younger (elementary age) siblings as well.
I base my opinion on both military housing guidelines and experience as parent of 4 and grandparent of 3. Grated all of these children were all above average intelligence and acceptance of responsibility. Very few places offer after school care for miffle schoolers (6th - 8th grade; almost 11-15).
That's ridiculous. At eleven I was babysitting my siblings and at 13 I was babysitting for the neighbors.