
Quoting
OKisNotOK
Grandmother,
As granny to granny, I understand your concerns and desire not to lose control over your grandchild.
I suggest that your best course of action is to:
1. get the child into counseling since an action in court is likely and this will spill out into the child's life
2. get yourself into counseling or a grandparent support group since your relationship with your grandchild will likely change and not in the way you would like
3. get your son an attorney and perhaps another for yourself to determine what rights you might have given your long term involvement in the child's life
4. put the child's relationship with the parents over your relationship with the child
5. work to mend your relationship with the child's mother; the child needs to see the people who love her respect and be cordial - even if they cannot love - each other