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  1. #11
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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    All 8 of these points and you manage to miss the main one. When a parent who is not mentally stable and has a history of serious drug abuse and suicide attempts. This proves they are unfit. Placing a child into an unfit parent’s care when they are currently living in an environment that they are thriving in is ridiculous. This guy is 6 years older than me and I was only 18 when I met him after years of manipulation I got out of that with my kids unscathed. Also it’s not the future I’m worried about. If he truly stays clean and turns out to be a great father then he can spent as much time with the kids as he wants. That would be the ideal situation. Who wants fatherless children? But to come straight out of jail and force his way into their lives day one is not okay. Especially if he’s just going to be right back out of their lives in a few years. Now if you can give actual advice on the present times outcome with this joint 50/50 timeshare petition based on the FACTs I stated in the original post and not on your “assumptions” about me that would be actually more helpful.

    Also let’s not forget that this petition was in direct response of the child support order I initiated so there is a better chance that he doesn’t really care about spending time with the kids but is trying to avoid the maximum amount.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    Sweetie,

    You need a reality check and counseling. You will need to comply with court orders you disagree with. It is better for the children if you do it with a smile on your face rather than the attitude you have displayed on this forum. Since you yourself obviously have issues (or you would not have gotten involved much less had children with him), get yourself some help and someone to vent at rather than bring your anger and resentment into your home. Your children will benefit.

    You need a no nonsense attorney - i.e. one that will not tell you what you want to hear but one who will tell you what you need to hear. I am sad for the situation both of you have created for your shared children. I hope both of you will put them first, In spite of your belief you are doing so, your attitude on this forum troubles me. And if you will not get counseling for yourself, get it for the kids; better still, get all into counseling.

    And take the previous comments seriously; there is much wisdom in them.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

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    All 8 of these points and you manage to miss the main one. When a parent who is not mentally stable and has a history of serious drug abuse and suicide attempts. This proves they are unfit. Placing a child into an unfit parent’s care when they are currently living in an environment that they are thriving in is ridiculous. This guy is 6 years older than me and I was only 18 when I met him after years of manipulation I got out of that with my kids unscathed. Also it’s not the future I’m worried about. If he truly stays clean and turns out to be a great father then he can spent as much time with the kids as he wants. That would be the ideal situation. Who wants fatherless children? But to come straight out of jail and force his way into their lives day one is not okay. Especially if he’s just going to be right back out of their lives in a few years. Now if you can give actual advice on the present times outcome with this joint 50/50 timeshare petition based on the FACTs I stated in the original post and not on your “assumptions” about me that would be actually more helpful.

    Also let’s not forget that this petition was in direct response of the child support order I initiated so there is a better chance that he doesn’t really care about spending time with the kids but is trying to avoid the maximum amount.
    I didn't miss it or gloss over it. Until the state deems him unfit your opinion will not matter once the matter comes to the court. As the father he has the right to sue for custody, as do you. It's highly unlikely that the courts would uproot the kids and hand the over but he will get visitation and eventually he will get overnights and it will all be spelled out very clearly in the court ordered plan. As the kids will likely continue to live with you primarily he will also have to pay CS.

    the "assumptions" I made about you were based purely on the increasing rancor when it was pointed out that you don't have full control of this situation. You also have no real idea what he cares about.

    The advice? Get an attorney. That's the best advice that you'll get here as to how to proceed. Everything else here is predicated on only the lopsided view that you present and what we, collectively know about how these systems work.

    If it helps you feel any better we've had hard words for plenty of fathers who say the same things that you did.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    Wow you people are so deluded if you work in law this is everything wrong in the world today. I do have a meeting with the best attorney in the area and I’ll make sure to update you all on the outcome of a REAL lawyers advice.

    LOL hand my children over to a meth addict with a smile on my face. You can’t be seriously this ignorant.

    Thank you. I’m 100% in agreement with graduated visitation under the assumption he stays clean and out of trouble. What I was NOT okay was the idea he can get 50/50 time share out of the gate while not paying CS like this petition states.

  5. #15
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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    If court ordered, you WILL hand the children over for visitation or risk losing custody. You do not get to set the terms of when this occurs; the court will. If your attorney does not tell you this, get a new one.

    You picked him to be the father of your children. You now have to live with the consequences of this decision. Don't make it harder on the children by turning this into a war in the courts. Every one of you - especially the children - will lose.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    Clearly you can’t read. I said I was 100% okay with gradual visitation rights no where did I say I wouldn’t hand my children over. Just not with a smile. Not that they’re going to go willingly anyway my oldest has made it clear he’s not going and demands his father continue to visit him here like he has been doing.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

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    Clearly you can’t read. I said I was 100% okay with gradual visitation rights no where did I say I wouldn’t hand my children over. Just not with a smile. Not that they’re going to go willingly anyway my oldest has made it clear he’s not going and demands his father continue to visit him here like he has been doing.
    You need to understand that you or your oldest isn't going to be the one that decides these things.

  8. #18
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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    If any of the children do not go according to the court order. You are the one the court will penalize. It is never a good idea to allow a child to dictate to their parent(s) what they will and will not do.

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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    He’s not the type of guy that’s going to force them to go if they don’t want to and I doubt he’ll report it. Again this whole time share thing is his way of trying to avoid child support. Up until the point I filed, he’s had no interest in spending time with the children anyway.

  10. #20
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    Default Re: Father Requesting Joint Custody to Avoid Paying Child Support

    What exactly did your ex file for? In the OP there is a lot of info from you about CS issues and his allegations against you, but you never said exactly what he was requesting in his motion. Does he want full custody with you getting visitation and paying CS, 50-50 custody with no CS, or a court-ordered visitation plan, or something else?

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