Sweetie,
You need a reality check and counseling. You will need to comply with court orders you disagree with. It is better for the children if you do it with a smile on your face rather than the attitude you have displayed on this forum. Since you yourself obviously have issues (or you would not have gotten involved much less had children with him), get yourself some help and someone to vent at rather than bring your anger and resentment into your home. Your children will benefit.
You need a no nonsense attorney - i.e. one that will not tell you what you want to hear but one who will tell you what you need to hear. I am sad for the situation both of you have created for your shared children. I hope both of you will put them first, In spite of your belief you are doing so, your attitude on this forum troubles me. And if you will not get counseling for yourself, get it for the kids; better still, get all into counseling.
And take the previous comments seriously; there is much wisdom in them.

