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cdwjava
You already have a lawyer - a public defender IS a lawyer. Listen to your attorney and refer questions or concerns to them. You may want to ask what the chances are of a protective order being issued.
Understand that even if the victim does not want to help, they can be compelled to attend court and testify. The prosecutor and the court understand that some 75% of domestic violence victims back pedal or lie to protect their abuser, so they are prepared for that eventuality if they really want to move forward.
I am not specifically familiar with NJ law on the matter, but it seems the trend for a first time offender is probation and counseling (and lots of fines and fees). It is also possible - perhaps even likely - that the court will impose a stay away order of some kind upon you.
Also, if there is currently a TRO upon YOU, and you have your mother or any other party communicate to the victim on your behalf, YOU can go immediately to jail and face additional charges. The VICTIM cannot get in trouble for contacting you, but YOU can get in a heap of trouble for communicating with them. Keep that in mind.