My husband just recently was ordered to pay spousal support through the Oakland County Courts. He is currently paying $667 a month for child support for two kids (we live in Saginaw), 90% of the uninsured medical bills and takes full responsibility for all driving to pick up and drop off the kids. When they divorced, my husband still paid all her bills including car payment, insurance, house payment, etc. (plus spending money) to ensure she stayed with the accustomed lifestyle until the sale of the marital home, in which she would receive ALL the equity (was in access of $100k) plus all the contents of the home. He also had to either continue to pay her car payments or purchase her a new vehicle which cost the same or higher than her present one.

When she took him for spousal support, the referee originally ordered him to pay $76 per week. The final outcome was for him to pay $120 a week dating back to the day of the divorce, NOT the day she filed for support. He is now $23k in debt. With all this, including the ongoing rediculas medical bills she is constantly handing him, she takes well over 65% of his income. He pays her $1200 a month alone in child/spousal support. He only brings home close to $800 for us (which includes a 2 year old child). She is now working making only $2.25 an hour less than him and didn't report her earnings until well after 45 days of starting her job and AFTER my husband filed a motion for an evidentiary hearing. We can barely afford to pay our bills and have monthly shut off notices while we are paying all of her bills, and then some, while she is still enjoying $75k in the bank and all her earnings. What can we do, if anything, to make this more fair for our family? He wants to appeal the judged decision but was told it would cost us nearly $3500.

Oh, just a note...at the beginning of the hearing for the spousal support, his ex wife told him she would settle for $5k, which clearly shows she doesn't need the money. She also threatened him that if her support gets reduced, she will then fight him for daycare costs.

PLEASE HELP! WE HAVE A FAMILY TO SUPPORT TOO! Is it really fair that she gets to live the highlife while we live in poverty?